What does a woman mean when she wants you to be more romantic?
When a woman asks you to be more romantic she’s not talking about grand gestures or having you spend a lot of money.
What she’s really telling you is that she’s looking for that special something that made her swoon in the first place. It’s one of the reasons I write the Allison short stories. In those stories, Allison and Dean have found a way to inject a little adventure and a lot of sex into their relationship.
And no, I’m not saying that romance is the same is sex.
We all remember when we first started dating whoever we’re with now and the little gestures they made that caused our hearts to beat a little faster and that made us anticipate seeing him or her sooner rather than later.
One of the dangers of a long term relationship is that all of us tend to get to that spot where we’re comfortable with whoever we’re with.
If we’re married or living with someone it doesn’t take long before we become to each others routines. What I’m talking about is the whole get up, get ready, go to work, come home and eat and go to bed thing. And it’s not necessarily a bad place to be. The truth is, is that deep down it’s what men and women truly yearn for.
It’s the idea that we have someone we’re comfortable enough with a guy that we don’t worry about having to have our hair done up perfectly when he see’s us first thing in the morning. That we won’t be judged because we’re still wearing that favorite old ratty sleep shirt because it’s comfortable.
And that’s okay.
For guys, it means that they sink into the way they truly are. They feel comfortable enough to watch whatever they want on TV and know they won’t be judged too harshly. Or to finally admit, that yes, they love to try and beat a video game, even if it takes hours to get to the next level!
But comfortable sometimes comes at a cost.
And that cost is what started this blog post in particular.
The other day I caught myself telling my significant that I wished they’d be more romantic.
What was did I really mean?
What i really meant, and what I think most women mean, is that we’re yearning for that special something that drew us to you in the first place.
So here are some hints that won’t break the bank.
1. Open the door for us again next time we go out. Yes, some of us women complain that we don’t want you to, that we’re liberated and we don’t need a man to open the door for us, that we’re perfectly capable of doing it on our own.
And we are.
But we still like it, no matter what we say.
2. Do something for us that we normally do for you.
Wash the dishes and make dinner if thats what she normally does for you. And don’t forget to clean up afterwards.
Over the next few weeks I’m planning on writing a few blog entries that will deal with things that you can do that are romantice and won’t break the bank.
They may take some effort. And they will be based on showing her that you value her enough to make the effort to be romantic in a way that she’ll appreciate.
And for the women reading this, I’ll try and give you a few ideas also for things you can do that will help whoever you’re with remember why you made their hearts beat a little faster.
Nikki Caine writes short spicy romance stories. You can find them on Amazon. And she likes to blog about romance.
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