Today marked the last day of my fourteen day romance challenge. And I can’t believe it’s over! Not permanently over, I plan on continue doing romantic things for my husband. Fourteen days ago I decided that because romance had seemed to have faded in my life, that it was time to do something about it. And it all started with a simple considerate question from my husband. He’d asked me if there was anything special I wanted to do for Valentine’s Day. And my answer? I couldn’t think of anything to tell him. And thus, my romance challenge was born. Over the past fourteen days, I’ve left post-it notes, written letters, given a back rub or two, and spent several hours watching romantic movies with my husband while the world outside our home was encased in ice. And if I had it all to do over again? I’d do it in a heartbeat. I’ve been married long enough now to realize that romance sometimes takes a back seat to life and routine once you’ve been married a while. And I also know that it doesn’t have too. Some of you might be wondering if this has all been a one way street with my husband on the receiving end. The answer is no! My husband has done several sweet things for me along the way. Things I’ve intentionally not blogged about. He’s sprung a few of his own surprises on me over the past few weeks. Things that he’d done routinely when we first met, and it was nice. Not that he’s a bad husband; the truth is I couldn’t have married a better man. That’s not to say that he’s perfect! He’s not. But he’s perfect for me. Now on to what I did on the fourteenth day. Again it wasn’t anything special. We had ice here again. He used another vacation day. And we sat and talked and watched movies again. Held hands again. And enjoyed spending the day together like people who are dating do. He brought me hot tea, and m&m’s, while he cracked jokes about the green ones. And I loved every minute of it. And what did I do for him? Only little things. I made him an omelet again for breakfast. We took a nap in the afternoon, and I laid my head on his shoulder. So for all of you out of there wishing for a little more romance in your life, I’d encourage you to start your own romantic challenge. Remember some of the things you used to do for the person you love and do some of them again. Remind yourself why you love the one you’re with. Show some appreciation. Leave him little notes. Send him a letter. Give him a backrub. And don’t forget to talk and communicate. Remember that Valentine’s Day isn’t the only time of year for romance! If you’ve got comments, please leave them below. And if you want to see how all of this started, you can follow my whole romance journey here.
Only one day to go in my romance challenge. I can’t believe that it’s already the thirteenth day! Today was another day with my hubby home due to icy roads, and it’s looking like tomorrow is going to be the same. Since he stayed home I decided that I’d fix him breakfast. Now usually he just skips it and I always wonder how a person can do that. He’d already made coffee and so I made omelets for both of us. It was so nice to sit at our table, eating breakfast, and looking at the ice covered world outside. Winter can be so beautiful if you don’t have to get out in it. And it’s the perfect time to spend some time indoors, cuddled up on the couch talking. During the romance challenge I’ve been constantly reminded that romance is really about doing the small unexpected things that show how much you appreciate the person you’re with. That can be simple things like a guy who opens the door for you, not because he thinks you’re not capable of doing it for yourself, but because he’s being a gentleman. It can be the odd little post-it note, or an unexpected letter or bringing chocolates home, not because it’s an anniversary or Valentine’s Day, but because they were thinking of you. Romance is truly taking the time to show appreciation for another person without any strings attached to the outcome. And that is truly what this romance challenge of mine has reminded me to remember. Tomorrow is the last day of my romance challenge. In a way I’m sad that it’s coming to an end. The one thing I know though is that I’m not going to stop doing the little things that show my husband how much I care. And even though I haven’t blogged about it, I’ve noticed my husband doing small things that show how much he cares about me too. If you’ve got comments please leave them. And if you haven’t been following along, check out Day 1 of my romance challenge to get caught up.
Day 12 of the Romance Challenge! I still can’t believe that it’s been twelve days since I started the romance challenge. My plans for today changed because here in the Midwest we were hit with ice. Originally, I’d planned on doing some chore that I know is on my husband’s list of ‘I hate doing this’, and then surprising him when he got home from work. That all changed when I woke up to find him sitting on the couch, drinking coffee, and telling me that he’d taken a day of vacation so he wouldn’t have to fight an icy drive to and from work. So I asked myself, what would a girl on a romance challenge do? What I really asked myself, was what would the girl he’d fallen in love with do before they were married do if they were stuck together with icy roads, and home alone together? So… here’s what I came up with. We sat and talked and watched movies on the Hallmark Channel all day. Even though he’d never admit it, he likes them just as much as I do. And that begs a question for all of you girls out there and the guys. Why won’t guys admit that they like romance movies? My theory is that they’re afraid they’ll be judged as being too sensitive. I have news for them, girls like a guy who’ll take them to a romantic movie. It gives us an excuse to sit close, share popcorn, and hold hands. And here’s something for the guys out there, quite a few of the girls out there like action flicks just as much as you do, but for kind of the same reasons, we’re afraid to admit it. The truth is, I’m okay with watching anything with Jason Statham in it. And the Audi he drives in the Transporter movies? I love that car! Now back on to the subject of today’s post. It was nice to sit together and cuddle, joke around a little bit at some of the sappy story lines, and spend the day together while the weather did what it does here in the Midwest. Sixty one day, and cold and icy the next. As much as I miss the warm spring days, hot summers, and cool fall days when we can sit outside on the porch, I love those cold nasty winter days when we can sit and watch movies all day, holding hands, and snuggling. That’s it for today. If you have comments please leave them below. Tell me what you like to do on cold winter days with the person you love. And if you haven’t been following along with my romance challenge, you can read all about how it started here. Hoping all of you are safe wherever you’re at. Rain, snow, ice, or beautiful weather!
The eleventh day of the romance challenge is here. I can’t believe that I’m already eleven days in and that only three days remain. Today as I tried to decide on what I could do that was romantic I was reminded of all the firsts I’ve gone through in my relationship. I think firsts are part of the mystique of new romances as well as established ones. Who doesn’t remember their first kiss? Their first dance. The first time a boy asked them out and what his name was. And does anyone ever forget their first love? I’ve had many firsts with my husband. I still remember the first time we met, and the first time we kissed. I remember the first time he mentioned that being married wouldn’t be so bad after all – a surprise, not only because I’d heard him say several times that he never planned on being married, but also because I was feeling the same way. I remember our first date and all of the many things he’s had me try over the years. Sailing and camping and scuba diving. And the first time we went to his aunt and uncles farms and I drove a tractor. Yep, drove a tractor. Something a city girl like me never imagined doing. So, today I wrote him a letter, thanking him for all of the firsts we’ve experienced together, and watched him smile as he read it, then reach over to grab my hand, and tell me that he’s a very lucky man. Something I’d challenge all of my readers to do is to take some time and remember all of their own relationship firsts. And if that’s not a romantic thing to do I don’t know what to do. I’m keeping this entry short, so until tomorrow I wish all of you good luck in your own romantic challenges. Remember I’d love to hear from you in the comments. And if you haven’t been following along, be sure to check out all of the previous days in my Romance Challenge.
Day 10 of the Romance Challenge was a challenge itself. Day 10 was supposed to be a day to relive something romantic pre-marriage. So what happened? I woke up in a bad mood. It wasn’t any one thing that set me off; I just woke up not feeling very nice. I have those kinds of days on occasion. The kind of day where no matter what people do, they irritate me. And yesterday was my day. It should have been a nice relaxing day. We went out for breakfast with my mother-in-law and had a wonderful time. But the time I’d gotten home, that angry feeling I’d woken up with had come roaring back with a vengeance. And why? Because I’d decided on this Holiday weekend that I needed to clean the house. REALLY clean the house. And of course, when I mentioned it to my husband, he looked at me with puppy dog eyes, said ok, and then asked me if I wanted to go take a nap with him since he’d gotten up at four o’clock. No, I didn’t want to take a nap. I wanted to clean. I’m sure it’s because spring is right around the corner. And by the time he woke up, I’d only gotten angrier. Now I have a wonderful husband, but his idea of clean and mine are completely different things. It’s a fairly standard thing for him to get up way before I do. And, especially on the weekends, I like to sleep in late. And it’s also a pretty common thing for him to get up and make coffee, load and run the dishwasher, and tidy up whatever needs to be tidied up. In his mind, that’s cleaning. Everything picked up, dishes done, and sweep the floors, etc. But that’s not what I call clean. To me, cleaning is cleaning bathrooms. Scrubbing floors – not just sweeping them. Cleaning the windows with glass cleaner. Dusting! What does all this have to do with my romance challenge? It’s this. Like most things, it’s easy to be romantic when everything is going well in the world. It’s much harder when I’m upset. So what did I do? I bit my tongue halfway through the afternoon, and we went and got ice cream. He loved it, even though he’s not much into sweet sugary things. For those of you following along I’m sure you’ll remember the Christmas candy. And we talked. And this time when we asked me what was wrong I told him. Probably a little more forcefully than I should have, and he listened. Did that solve my angry feelings? Well, if I’m being honest, not completely. I still had things I wanted to clean. But he jumped in and did some laundry and folded it, and finished up with the dishes. So girls, wish me luck today. I’m feeling better. The house is cleaned. Spring is just around the corner. And I learned a valuable lesson today – that being romantic every day takes a little work. And that it’s important to make the effort even on the days when we’re upset. If you’ve got comments, please leave them below. And if you haven’t been following along on my journey, check out Romance Challenge Day 1.